My mum has entered the light
I never encountered anybody who hung on to life like she did.
I made it home and left her bedside at 9pm then she slipped away at 2 am.
I had forgotten the raw torture of grief.
However while I weep she's in a beautiful place.
The cycle of life.
My condolences Alison (HA). It's a strange turning point in life, when one is no longer a child. The cycle of life waits for no one. Wishing you well as you mourn your loss.
Best, Trevor (LT) xxx
Thank you LT
It certainly brings home our own mortality knowing you are next in line.
I had her longer than most and the prolonged and rocky path to her freedom was incredibly painful for all concerned.
The ever changing emotional torment as her Alzheimer's progressed robbed us of her slowly.
Now she's finally gone there's a sense of disbelief.
Thank you for your condolences.
Thank you for your condolences, so very much appreciated.
I am just so thankful i was with her in her last days.
I am so glad she finally surrendered her long life
She wanted to go for ages and I am so relieved her long days of sometimes distressing confusion are over.
That's the practical grown up view. The other view is the child we all have within...desolate and wanting their mummy. Age is irrelevant from that angle.
I know i was luckier than many, both in having her so long but also loving her as i did.
It comes to us all and no matter how prepared I was, yes even willing her on...when she died and i saw her , there's a panicky feeling that must be the universal feeling of irretrievable loss.
I know you did not have that with your own mum and several other members have confided in me over the years, they never knew it either. So i was blessed to have her.
As I am estranged from ny own daughter and subsequently my beloved grandchildren 3 years now I am probably feeling it worse.
Take care of yourself
Will write when i am back in Edinburgh.
I know this will bring up deep wounds for you and your loss. As a wise friend told me "grief has no sell by date" and that is so true. It comes in waves and as time passes the waves get easier to bear then bang! It hits you all over again.
She's being laid to rest with my father on Thursday
It's a beautiful plot with the sea of the Moray Firth in tbe background.
I shall be taking a cord at the graveside. A privilege for me.
A dare say there will be some poems rumbling about inside ?
Love to you
Ps i don't know how my replies are not under each person? ?
My deep condolences for the irreparable loss. Like you say she's in a better place, she certainly is. I lost my mother in 2013. I was beside her and could literally see her expand. She was singing an old song, without skipping any word or going out of tune, which meant as the sun rises I will come back again.
But at the end of it all, ma is ma.
We miss you Alison.
Aww Supratik! How lovely of you. So sorry taken so long to reply. I have had one thing after another since mum died...just under par but trying to get back in the swing of things. My poetry seems to have dried up as I could write but reckon it would be too depressing so waiting for some inspiration. ?
I know exactly what you mean when you say you saw your mother "expand" I had something similar with my dad.
Edinburgh is going like a fair just now with the festival. It's great in one way but everything becomes almost grid locked and streets closed willy-nilly making getting about a pain in the backside. ?
Maybe the longer nights will get me writing again. (I sure hope so!)
I miss you all too. ?
Take care and as you say "Ma is Ma" Doesn't matter how long in the tooth I am, I miss her very much.
My sincerest condolences for your loss, luv. We are on parallel paths as far as being the adult children of mums we love dearly. My mum is getting up there in age and her health has started to waver a little this Summer. I know that I don't have the grace and maturity to handle her passing. I hope you find some of both in what must be a challenging time in your life.
Instead of trying to undo the biting of the old apple/I bite a new one instead/And with a toothless grin/Become a Dionysian among Christians.
Hi Tony ?
Thank you for writing .
It comes to all of us in some form. I know from what people have shared to me on here that not everyone has a positive or loving relationship with their mother.
So I was blessed.