My mum has entered ...

My mum has entered the light  

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I never encountered anybody who hung on to life like she did.

I made it home and left her bedside at 9pm then she slipped away at 2 am.

I had forgotten the raw torture of grief.

However while I weep she's in a beautiful place.

The cycle of life.

Alison xxx


Posted : 10/05/2019 10:13 am
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My condolences Alison (HA). It's a strange turning point in life, when one is no longer a child. The cycle of life waits for no one. Wishing you well as you mourn your loss.

Best, Trevor (LT) xxx


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Posted : 10/05/2019 10:26 am
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My deep condolences for your loss, Alison. Keep well.

Luigi xxx

Posted : 10/05/2019 11:09 am
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So sorry to hear about your mum, Alison. I know how much she meant to you, and how you looked after her.xx

Posted : 10/05/2019 8:57 pm
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My condolences dear Alison.


I plead not ordinary

Posted : 10/05/2019 9:23 pm
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Thank you LT

It certainly brings home our own mortality knowing you are next in line.

I had her longer than most and the prolonged and rocky path to her freedom was incredibly painful for all concerned. 

The ever changing emotional torment as her Alzheimer's progressed robbed us of her slowly.

Now she's finally gone there's a sense of disbelief. 

Thank you for your condolences. 

HA xxx

Posted : 11/05/2019 8:52 am
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Dearest Luigi

Thank you for your condolences, so very much appreciated. 

I am just so thankful i was with her in her last days. 

I am so glad she finally surrendered her long life

 She wanted to go for ages and I am so relieved her long days of sometimes distressing confusion are over. 

That's the practical grown up view. The other view is the child we all have within...desolate and wanting their mummy. Age is irrelevant from that angle.

Thanks again

Alison xxx




Posted : 11/05/2019 9:02 am
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HI Boss

I know i was luckier than many, both in having her  so long but also loving her as i did.

It comes to us all and no matter how prepared I was, yes  even willing her on...when she died and i saw her , there's a panicky feeling that must be the universal feeling of irretrievable loss.

I know you did not have that with your own mum and several other members have confided in me over the years, they never knew it either. So i was blessed to have her.

As I am estranged from ny own  daughter and subsequently my beloved grandchildren 3 years now I am probably feeling it worse. 

Take care of yourself 

Will write when i am back in Edinburgh. 

Much love

Alison xxx


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Posted : 11/05/2019 9:13 am
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Dearest Nic

I know this will bring up deep wounds for you and your loss. As a wise friend told me "grief has no sell by date" and that is so true. It comes in waves and as time passes the waves get easier to bear then bang! It hits you all over again.

She's being laid  to rest with my father on Thursday 

It's a beautiful  plot with the sea of the Moray Firth  in tbe background. 

I shall be taking a cord at the graveside. A privilege for me.

A dare say there will be some poems rumbling about inside 😘 

Love to you

Alison xxx

Ps i don't know how my replies are not under each person? 🙄 

Posted : 11/05/2019 9:28 am
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My deep condolences for the irreparable loss. Like you say she's in a better place, she certainly is. I lost my mother in 2013. I was beside her and could literally see her expand. She was singing an old song, without skipping any word or going out of tune, which meant as the sun rises I will come back again. 

But at the end of it all, ma is ma. 

We miss you Alison. 

Posted : 02/08/2019 9:47 am