Where is everyone?
Yeah I'm sure David is still on my FB friends. As is Claire.
Roy Bateman was an excellent humour writer and always sent his comments in a PM. I Google-searched obituaries for his area and if it's the same man, he died in 2009. Likewise a search for Griff came up with a John Griffiths of Hemel Hempstead dying of cancer in 2017 aged 71. Sad news if they are the same members.
I am profoundly affected by the news that John is dead to the extent of leaving the site behind. I do appreciate Richard's and Andrea's efforts all these years but Egriff was simply top figure in my head for some reason, an emblem of creative writing and the editor of my cancelled book in 2004.
So I want to ask if he died in 2017 why is there a comment of his here last year?
is he alive ? are we sure? does anyone know? was it a relative of his that added this comment? if he is dead since 2017, then in 2018 somebody commented using his account.
this is all very annoying, Archie is not convinced so I checked his last comments just in case I am gullible on the matter and exaggerate.
I plead not ordinary
No, we're not sure, IYP. If you read some of the previous comments, you'll see that I've stated more than once 'if' it's the same person. Of course we'd all be delighted if John's alive and well, likewise Roy Bateman.
I don't understand your thinking about leaving the site if John has died. He hasn't been on UKA for quite a while and you've never said anything about moving on before...
I explained what egriff means to me ... I happen to know him since 2001 there were periods we didn't say a word but it didn't matter .. yes I was hoping he would return ... Talking about the death of any person has unknown consequences ... Cancer 71 a year after my father's death sorry that's too much for me after spending two years trying to help ukauthors hoping egriff would return
thanks for the experience, but it's getting too eerie too frigid too unresponsive lately. I have no reason to continue.
I plead not ordinary
I do think the Hemel Hempstead John Griffiths must refer to a different person. Wrong middle name, wrong age.
You must know more than the rest of us, michel. From what I can gather from his website, his middle initial was F, he retired in the year 2000 aged 56 (he would now be 75) and he often mentioned that he lived in Hemel Hampstead where "Pie in the sky" was filmed.
I realize that I'm rather late to the ball, but I am trying to catch up and become a fully invested member again. Commenting has always been an issue and I suspect always will, but didn't there used to be a choice the author could have which said 'comments only' or 'crit welcomed' or some such? I think that would be useful. If there were a message on front page or wherever that talks about how the site works, you could include information about selecting the type of response you're looking for. That way the people who are worried about unwanted feedback can choose to accept critique or not. Maybe we still have that here, I don't know. Hell, selecting something like 'don't burst my balloon' or something which can be a selection and everyone can go from there. I'd probably be a fan of something like 'whip me, beat me, but please teach me' variety, myself. lol
Personally, I try to be positive when commenting. I do also try to offer suggestions when I have them, but they are just that, a suggestion or an opinion and I do not feel that I am so accomplished that I have the right to destroy someone's attempt at being creative. Nor do I have the inclination to do so, truth be told. You can select something good to comment on without lying and which doesn't hurt anyone in my opinion.
When I first joined UKA, I was fortunate enough to have very talented people offer their help in different ways, from gentle suggestion to brutal honesty and crit. For me, that was a godsend. I still prefer brutal honesty, but that is my personal preference and I am aware that not everyone feels the same.
I don't have any intention of posting anything new right now, mostly because I don't even know if I can still write, but I do intend to fill up on the rich and wonderful fare still (thankfully) on offer here. I am personally going to begin to tout UKA every chance I get in order to try and help get new members here.
Perhaps we could have one or two people who are willing to take new members under their wings to help with things like getting them acclimated to the site, etc? I have to admit, I'm still trying to figure out how to work everything here now. I'm not working these days, so I'd be willing to help with this or really anything else that is needed.
And if maybe, we could be a bit more gentle with newcomers, especially at first, we would all benefit in the end, because you never know what flower may grow from a random seed. Besides, not everyone enjoys getting spanked as much as I do. 😉
Glad to be back,
I am so anxious to come back but had so much going on in my personal life that time was never on my side. I know there have been a lot of "issues" too, so hard for me to actually see where to slide in unobtrusively. 😔
I miss the banter and the warmth and all the shite too. haha 😏
I found some very old poems I don't think were ever posted so thought I may start off with them to get me back in the swing but I am totally out of touch with everything but I have missed everyone.
I ain't getting any younger either so use it or lose it as they say 👍 🤡